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Why do girls insist personality trumps looks

I’m so sick of the crap I hear on the internet about dating girls. Like having confidence and perseverance when talking to girls, etc. None of that stuff even matters if you’re not attractive. At least I don’t feel that im attractive, but i’ve had grown ups tell me I’m handsome, but their opinions are worthless to me. I’m a bit on the obese side, but I do stuff like play tennis, piano, and i can sing. Im 21 and never had a gf, but I go to Univ. of Michigan, one of the best engineering schools in the country. So I’ve established that I’m going to stop trying to look for girls, b/c it doesnt matter for me b/c I’m not attractive. Im gonna bet that there are multiple posts that will say stuff like, "oh my bf is a nice guy and we’ve been dating, etc" or girls will say spoon fed shit like "oh you just gotta be confident and sweet." Hahaha. bullshit. it only works if youre attractive. I’ve never even had a chance to hang out with a girl b/c theyve always rejected to hang out hiding under excuses like "I have hw to catch up on" or simply "I’m busy." Or simply not responding to texts. There are gonna be responses like "well maybe she was busy, etc." But I know how girls work. If they really did want to hang out, theyd make the time to do so. And I’ve tried multiple times with girls, and Ive never even been given a chance. At least hang out once and then decide to be friends. All this being said, I’ve accepted that I’m going to be single the rest of my life, so I’m going to try to make my career the best it can be to compensate for my loneliness. So far, this has been the best cover up for my depression. I’m actually on pace to have a job after graduation, as I’ve had an internship with the same company 2 summers in a row. But anyways, I just wanted to get this all off my chest.

AND I KNOW THERE ARE GOING TO BE GIRLS WHO WILL DISAGREE, BUT YOU’RE HONESTLY LYING TO YOURSELF IF YOU SAID PERSONALITY TRUMPS LOOKS. There will prob be some bullshit like "oh well my bf is a really nice guy and not a hunk, etc." hahahaha such horse shit.

i’m in my late 20′s and yes you’re right, women are all about looks. they are really no different than us, keep that in mind. it’s just women are actually infact much pickier because it’s all about the whole package-looks, money, social status, etc. the attributes that provide a living are actually worth more but if you happen to be a good looking guy with tons of money you’ll have no difficult at all getting the girls you want.

don’t let their bullshit bother you tho. just live your fucking life man. as you get older you’ll see how stupid it is to have ever wasted your time worrying about females (and yes you’ll get your share of them too)

well i agree, but guys do the same thing, “i love you for your personality” give me a break? everyone wants to believe that they love someone for they’re personality, because they don’t want to be so judgmental on people’s looks, but lets face it, looks matter.
No one wants to be that picky person who goes around saying, but looks do matter, and your not good enough.
Everyone’s lying to themselves.

What about stopping to act like a life hating little prick? That would surely help!

I’m not gonna lie, looks matter but not as much as you think they do. Looks work as to “draw” many people to you, but if they find out you’re an asshole no decent girl is gonna want to be with you. Besides, everyone likes different traits in people. Big muscles freak me out for example.

I suggest you stop trying so hard and get your school done first. If you’re not happy about your weight then continue doing your healthy sports and eat healthy etc.

I promise you, you’ll find someone eventually if you continue to meet people and be polite and funny. I’d go for a positive person with good humour and cofidence before someone with tight abs and money aaaaaaany day!

im a guy and im not cute nor hot and never have been — im at best average —- but i do know for a fact that personality is more important than looks —- i have a lady that loves me —- she is also intelligent confident and literally can have any man she wants —- she wants me because of who i am and im not rich either —- so stop feeling sorry for yourself go about your business BUT keep an open mind —- you will meet someone who will knock your socks off and she will feel the same

Girls (and guys!) say that personality is more important than looks because admitting they go on looks makes them seem shallow. The truth is that both have an impact.

Looks are key for two things – advertising and status. Good looking guys will pick up girls much more easily because girls are attracted to them, and because they like to show them off. But it’s not just the looks – confidence is a big part of it. Ugly guys who are self-assured will trump good-looking shy boys every time. If you have both looks and confidence, you’ll attract a lot of girls. If you lack both, you’ll struggle to get anywhere.

But looks are just the bait. The hook is the personality. Girls will flock to sleep with handsome lotharios, but they’ll only do it once. If you’re after a one night stand, a good personality will do you no favours. But if you’re after a relationship, it’ll never work out unless you can be friends as well as lovers. If you are shy and not blessed with looks, but you do land a girl, odds are she’ll be a keeper.

Most girls (and also boys) do not want to be perceived as shallow people by placing too much emphasis on looks.

However, the reality is that 99 percent of human beings will make their initial judgement regarding whether they are sexually interested in another person, based on looks. We are all biologically hardwired to respond to certain characteristics – fit bodies, symmetrical faces, proportionate features.
When women say that they like a guy who is funny, or clever, you can take it as read that they will value those things on the assumption that the male candidate passes the requirements in terms of their physical appearance.

Women value looks as much as men do (and men generally value looks enormously…) but they are less inclined to state that fact directly.

Okay. First off, way to generalize every single girl on the planet like you know them.

Second, it’s not ONLY looks that matter. Sure, i’m not going to deny that i do need some physical attraction with the guy for me to go out with them. But i definitely would not go out with them if they would be mean to me or if i don’t like their attitudes, no matter how good looking they are.

And third, you shouldn’t give up dating just because you had a few fall outs with girls. You’re still young and (from what i read and understand, in college) so there will be a lot of more opportunities to date.

Well. Looks do matter. And well, I’ve gone out with guys, that I can admit, that weren’t exactly good looking or good looking at all.
Looks, don’t mean anything unless they’ve got a good personality.
If you’re funny, you’re automatically more attractive. If you’re confident, you’re automatically more attractive. If you’re sweet, than you’re automatically more attractive. If you’re nice, you’re automatically more attractive.
And there are girls out there who won’t give a crap what you look like, if you made them happy.
And besides, as life goes on, personality trumps looks.
If you’re with a decent girl, a REAL girl, then she’ll be someone who goes after the one who makes her happy, not the gorgeous one.
And besides. If she was the one, you’d be gorgeous to her anyway.

Well for me, I need both, but I would say personality outweighs the looks. Like, if you’re hot, but you’re a total ass, then it’s not going to happen. If you’re average and your personality is good, then I would go for THAT guy rather than the hot guy with a terrible personality. Of course, I get attracted to guys based on their looks first and then get to know their personality as we go along. Yeah I admit it. I get attracted to the looks first and then get to know their personality. I don’t outright judge them if they’re “ugly” though. If their looks are average, then I would still be their friend and get to know their personality. :/

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